Does LOVE retain for lifelong? - Concept of ORANGE movie as my writing

Does LOVE retain for lifelong? This is a genuine question which strike every mind at some point of time in Life. There would be no individual on earth without contradicting feelings on the same thing or same person which/who exist for quite good time together with them. The moment when we got inspired by some characters or qualities or features of some persons/things which we come across, we start trying to learn and explore more and more about them. This results in interacting more with that person or use that thing more frequently not only just for learning about them but also to know how much they learn about you in turn. And this learning period will definitely be ever exciting and ever interesting phase. In this period, we find more and more qualities we like besides coming to know few qualities which we dislike. But still, in this phase we concentrate only on the qualities we like and doesn't bother much of the few qualities we dislike. So, we enjoy the relationship without any conflicts. At some point of time, even we think that they are our world and don't care much about the things surrounding. This may lead to something we name called Love or else a Close Friendship. Love exist in every relationship (connectivity) of human life and Friendship is one among such human relationships. There is a thin margin differentiating between the two which I would like to discuss in later post.

As and when the relationship grow and continue for quite long time, we again start thinking about ourselves and our interests and we lose interest on their regular qualities which we liked in them and slowly our concentration diverts on their negative side also. And we would start thinking about the sacrifices we have done to maintain a relationship with them. From this point of time we start showing drastic changes in our expressions. In this phase we feel free to express negative expressions i.e. our anger, frustration, dislike, etc.  immediately when we feel them. This is because of our bond with the person which grew stronger and we gain confidence in freedom of expression and thought. This is the state at which we feel to express and share anything to them truly without hiding.  But we human beings have different feelings embedded in us, like caring, possessiveness, hate, like, love, secure, frustration, etc. So, in this phase where the person take the freedom to express, if any of our negative feelings i.e. possessiveness, dislike, frustration, etc. are enhanced, definitely a conflict rises and sometimes it may even lead to situation of losing the relationship. This is the point at which we start thinking why we start hating a person whom we are ever interested in upto now, whose most of the qualities we liked upto now.........A self analysis starts and there comes the question Does LOVE retain for lifelong?

My answer for this is absolutely YES. Hating someone with whom you already built a relationship is something virtual. The hidden fact behind would be you are loving it more, but exhibiting it with a negative expressions like possessiveness, anger, frustration, etc. In such situations instead of exhibiting the negative expressions on each other, if we try to love/like and care each other much more, our relation grows much stronger, sweeter and with everlasting love and happiness.

Ice Cream in Banana Leaf makes more appetizing

This is just to convey concept of Ice Cream in Banana Leaf. The image is not refined. Please bear the quality.

A card to fiancé to express her expected future with him

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A letter conveying a friend how frequent you are in his/her thoughts

Dearest,

I don't know what to write

But still......

I wanna write to you something;

But don't know what thing;

and thus don't have anything;

so.... I end up in writing nothing 

This letter seems to be have no content at all. But that conveys a lot if you read by heart.

FRIEND - a gifted relation to every human - Scene 1

As usual Sanjana is waiting in the parking area of her Friend's appartments. She always values the time she spent with her friend daily. But at the same time she do not want family time of either of them to be consumed for this. Sanjana do not want anyone to face the problem she has from her spouse. So, she always go to her office along with her friend Sahithi to utilize that time to spend with her. Even though Sanjana's office is on the way to Sahithi's office, she get down at her friends's office and then again come back to her office. That precious she consider the time with her friend. This seems strange to many; and many others think this as a foolish thing done by jobless people. But amidst of all her office work, family responsibilities, and creative writing hobby, Sanjana try to maintain this everyday and cover all of them without fail. Each moment she spend is well planned to be heartfully happy. Sanjana's friend circle constitute people related to various fields. Most of them are born artists and one such friend of her is Sahithi.

It is the day before the Diwali. There is a bay decoration competition in Sahithi's office. Sahithi is a determined person always aiming at the winning part in life, say it a game or career. That is why she serves as a good lead in her company. So, Sahithi want to be a winner this time also. For that she set her mind to work from the day before. After she came downstairs, both exchanged smiles as usual and got into Sahithi's car. Sanjana as usual started blabbering some unrelated topics and cracking some meaningless jokes. But Sahithi's mind is thinking about the competition. Sanjana realized after some time and maintained silence. She felt like herself as if Dr.Watson sitting beside Mr.Sherlock Holmes :). Sanjana is a reserved person to outsiders and open up and talk freely only with very close ones. She is a character who is more formal to new people and more informal to her closed ones. So, she will be fun and ease going and helpful to her close friends, but bit difficult and boring to friends/relations of her friends.

Sanjana always say that both of them are unlike minds and hence as unlike polls, they attracted. She believe in the theory that unlike poles attract and like poles repel. But Sahithi disagree with Sanjana's theory. She says that both minds think alike and that is why they became friends. No one new how it happens, but few relations build without knowledge of ourselves. Such a wonderful relation is friendship.

Sanjana as usual got down at Sahithi's office and headed in the direction opposite to her office. Sahithi called her back and asked, why is she going in that direction. Then Sanjana told that she do not have office that day and came just for Sahithi. This surprised Sahithi a lot. Sanjana smiled and replied, "when you finish your work, just give me a call." and left. Sanjana went to a nearby shopping mall, entered a cafe and started working in her laptop. After an hour or so, Sahithi called and came to pick her. When Sanjana got into car, Sahithi asked whether she would accompany her to shopping. Sanjana immediately told yes excitingly. But the next moment Sanjana is surprised when she told that they are going with Sahithi's team members for purchasing decorative items for bay decoration. Sahithi want to untilise this shopping time to be with Sanjana. That is why she called Sanjana even though her team is going to be along. Both of them picked Sahithi's team members at Sanjana's office and left for shopping. Though with colleagues, Sahithi prefer Sanjan to sit beside her in front seat while driving. Sanjana showed some photos in her cell which she took in shopping mall where each shop is decorated with Diwali theme. She took those snaps for Sahithi only, so that it may be useful for her bay decoration tomorrow. This shows the level of responsiblity Sanjana shows towards Sahithi.

After shopping, they dropped the team members at office and started to home. Both are sitting silent in the car. After 5 minutes, Sanjana can't tolerate the silence and asked, "What are you thinking about, dear...." Sahithi replied that she is thinking about tomorrow's competition. She started talking about the colour combinations, lenths of decorative cloth, flowers arrangements, etc. Her creative brain is working like a designing software visualizing the expected layout of her bay tomorrow. Sahithi's commitment inspired Sanjana a lot. She again began to feel like Watson and Holmes. She smiled to herself and listened to her friend in silence. Once they reached Sahithi's appartment, Sanjana got down and left to her home in an auto.

Few people become so close that we cannot live without thinking about them, without feeling responsible for them, without feeling to have beside them and without feeling to talk to them.......and we call them as our FRIENDS :)

Score killer confidence - An inspiring article in Yahoo News

           When I passed through each line of the article @ http://in.news.yahoo.com/248/20100530/1582/tnl-score-killer-confidence.html I felt my brain applying the facts in real life's of myself and my friends around. The application of law of cause and effect of physics is very well explicit in the article. Morning, I and Sanjana went to Barista on the way to office, another favorite place of our times.  I showed the article to Sanjana my dearest friend as u all already know. She read the article and gave a half smile at me. These days I am sometimes getting angry at Sanjana's expressions if she doesn't put them in words explicitly of what do she really mean. I stopped eating and leaned back in chair with a deep sigh "uhhh....". Sanjan understood that I want her to tell the reason for half smile and her remark on the article. She said, "Sorry Dear, I know u are much bothered about my inner feelings and caring me so much. Fine, when I read this article I felt that my kids morning kiss and smile which I interact every morning have score killer confidence for me and only source for me to exist on this earth still. Her smile induces the strength in me, when I found no reason to exist on this earth after marraige......." She paused,  browsing through the feelings in her mind and then continued to explain, "every day morning when I interact with my kid, that day will definitely be a successful one in my work. Inspite of the distress I am dipped in after marraige, I am able to converse in a clear confident tone to colleagues and higher officials in meetings and other discussions. Am able to concentrate well in the work and complete successfully. This makes me win applause from the team and higher officials which is further boosting my confidence levels. These energy levels make me feel that there is some reason that I am still living cos I am able to atleast do the work of my interest and has been successful in it. " I appreciated her "Great! go ahead"

Every person in his/her life encounters pitfalls from the key source in their life and they seek for an alternate source to exist without thinking of  them. But people who are more determined only can maintain such stable brain set up until end. Otherwise they loose their life along with loss of hope. Hope Sanjana has a stable brain set up until a decent ending or until her life re-bounces to a happy married life.

Moulding Child's Manners - Parent's most challenging task, cos if you do not mould correctly, its very difficult to mend later

I am very surprised to see my 10 months old kid suddenly raising her hand and started "aaaaaaaa.......aaaaaa......." in a rythmic tone. She is doing this very frequently now a days. During pregnancey, I used to hear continuously to the melodious music, from the CD my doctor gave me. And after her birth, i used to keep the same like music running throughout the day. Even I used to sing the music notes and hum them showing the thaalams with hand to my daughter. After few months she started humming the same after me when I do it. Atleast she used to try to do it. I am very much surprised seeing that. Then now she started humming herself, though it doesn't come correctly. She suddenly raises her hand and wave it as if doing thaalaas and say "aaaa.....aaa....". I am not aware whether all kids do it at this age or not, but the style she does it is really make me wonder how quick these children are learning things now a days. Also she gives me high five which I used to do with her myself right frm her 2nd month. She gives thank you which her grandfather used to do from the start. She does the bajan which her great grandma thought her by clapping hands.

I used to say "NO" nodding by head whenever she touches or does anything she shouldn't touch or do. Now, she nods her head to convey that she doesn't want to do anything. She handles anything in her hand when asked and receives thank you from us. If we ask to bring any object which is near to her, she herself pick it and give it to us. 

Whatever we do, either good or bad, children try to imitate us and learn from us. Such an easily mendable, sensitive minds they have. I realised that I need to be more careful from now. I felt in my mind that bringing up children is also a challenging task. Hope that I will be successfully completing that task. But sometimes I doubt asking myself "Can I???" cos I myself am bit kiddish.....hahaa.... ;)

I think this is the most challenging task for every parent cos if you do not mould anything correctly, its very difficult to mend it later(Learnt from Life - Siri :) Cheerzzz...). Ofcourse, these words apply to anything in our life. This is only a small thought that is bothering in my mind currently whenever I observe new changes in my child. There are many situations/examples I have observed in different phases of lives of people around me that satisfy these words. Soon I will present them in short stories with a work around.

Worst Life vs Cool Life of Indian Women

Sanjana and I went to one of our fantastic favorite place. Its a park with water pools here and there at regular distances. There are also sitting benches arranged near each pool and the park is full of green grass which is cut and it just looks like a green mat all over. We sat on the grass beside a pool and sharing the happenings in our lives. This is what we do every Friday evening when we return from office. We laugh together at the comedy incidents that happened in our office, we discuss about the many common things and even we share about our personal lives. I am telling Sanjana, "Sanju, today our PM suggested the team to plan for an outing, he is really so sweet person....." Sanjana is staring at the ripples in the pool that are caused by the cool breeze. Her face is so pale and she seems to be lost in some other thoughts and not listening to my words. This is happening quite frequently from the time she got married. I asked her, what happened to her and why she is getting lost like that suddenly. Every time I ask her, she just smiles back and say nothing. Actually I like am a fan of her smile if she does it heartfully. But in situations like this she gives formal smile which make me know that she is not happy and hiding something. The same happened today also. Initially I didn't bother much about her such behavior. But as days passed and as she is loosing the charm over her face day by day, I thought I should know the reason and do whatever I can. because, a close friend whom I have seen as a leader, badminton player, active participant and organisor in cultural activities during college days is now looking dull, lost and behaving in a peculiar manner. So today I decided not to leave her when she smiled and replied nothing.

I raised my voice and asked her, "Sanju dear, Whats happening to you these days. You are behaving in a peculiar manner sometimes. You are lost in your own thoughts and becoming dumb sometimes. I am really becoming mad. Please tell me what is happening to you". She replied in a cool manner "Nothing" again. I got frustrated and replied, "Sanju, I can't stay without talking to you and please do not talk to me until you are open to me. U can stay dumb as long as you can, I will be bearing the torture". Tears rolled over Sanjana's eyes and she hugged me and crying. I consoled her first and then asked, "Now tell me dear, what happened". She narrated her sad story.....Sanjana is married 3 years back and she has a baby now. She is staying in her Mom's home with her baby from a long time after delivery. Now a days all people after marriage feel more comfortable with life partners than even their respective parents. But Sanjana's case is not so. She got a LP with a different sort of mentality.   His company is so gloomy and he never cooperate with Sanjana in household works.  Inspite of this he also won't allow her to keep a full time servant maid. He wont give sufficient pocket money to Sanju and talk some foolish morals to escape. For this reason Sanju who initially planned not to work after marraige, started working seriously. Once she got to know her husbands mentality she hunted for a job and achieved. Even now after her pregnancy, her company called her back due to support from her team lead and offered her facility to work from home. Such a personality is hers. So she need a full time servant maid and her husband is against to it inspite of her efforts to earn her own pocket money and also saving and increasing the money by investing in various businesses. Before marriage her father used to give her Rs.15000 as pocket money. That is the her standard of life. Now she is working hard for a 5 digit salary. Her standard of life fell down. Roaming in a car, living in a house with full fledged facilities and with full time servant maid is how she is brought up. Now after marriage, totally changed, no car, no AC, no geyser, no minimum facilities which even a lower middle class families are having now a days. She adjusted for one and half year with the improper facilities her husband provided to her inspite of his good salary. He always leave her and go to onsites. Only once he took her to onsite. She can't understand his problem and the reason for him to make her subject to such difficulties.

So, Sanju strongly decided to do job because of his husbands unstable and misery mentality. So, she need to have a full time servant maid if she has to cop up with the tasks and monitoring baby besides. But her husband doesn't accept it. She is getting tensed always with his ways and prolonging her return journey to him after delivery. This is only one example, there are many such problems caused by him. So, living with such type of person is always making her sick and mentally lost.

As Sanju is narrating this problem of hers, I remember another friend of ours Sindhu, who has a servant maid besides having a very cooperative husband. He even do the kitchen work, as all guys now a days do, take her to outings to some country clubs, bowling, temples in and around the city and also every week for shopping on every weekend. They have a car, and an own house with all facilities in a city and go to parks with their child almost all evenings returning from office earlier, even though they are having full time servant maid. He sometimes prepare a special dish on weekends and create excitement. And sometimes she does it. And remaining days the servant maid. There is rotation in the work making every day exciting. On the week days, he go to office at 9 and return at 6 evening. She starts her work from home from 10 and does it through out the day with breaks to spend time with her child. When she does her office work, the servant maid will take care of the child. Sindhu has know problem even when relatives or friends come to her house, cos she has a servant and also her husband is cooperative. Life seems to be exciting, easy and filled with fun if you observe that couples. When I saw them I felt married life is really colorful . They just have fun all the days. For every 2 months they visit to guys place and girls place alternatively taking leaves giving equal importance to both sides of the family. Really when I saw them, I felt like getting married soon. But when I observe Sanjana's life, I feel like not marrying at all. This incident took place an year before to my marriage. I do not know when Sanjana's life becomes colorful. I am lucky to lead a life like Sindhu, cos my life partner is also very cooperative.

This is an example of worst vs cool life of Indian women. Beware of men making your life gloomy and may be same advice to men i.e. beware of woman making your life gloomy. If you can't take care of a woman/man as her/his parents does, please do not get married and waste a life of a person.

Train Adventures - 1

The time is 4.00PM. Sanjana is waiting anxiously for someone on Platform No.3 of Central Railway Station.

That morning Sanjana shouted at Sindhu, for she denied to go along with her to Sanjana's home town for Vinayaka Chavithi holidays. Sindhu replied No very stubbornly. And Sanjana too told her stubbornly "I can't just like that leave you alone and go". Sanjana finished all her luggage packing and she took her cell out of the pouch and dailed her friend. Sindhu replied, "Sorry Sanju dear, I already told you I am not coming, please start off. Happy holidays. I can't even come to give u send off, please dear....". Sanjana just replied, "I am starting to Central, if you come I will board the train, otherwise we shall meet in the room tonight" and cut the call. Sindhu know about her friend that she is very sensitive and mean what she say. She went hurryingly to Team lead and told that she need to leave to her home town, cos it is serious to one of her close relations took the permission and started off. Sindhu took an auto and called her friend. Sanjana is already in the cab half way towards Central by that time. Sindhu said "Dear friend, I am coming for you. I took permission for you dear.Will try my best to reach the station in time." A wide smile passed over Sanjana's lips. She is very happy. After reaching Central, Sanjana checked and found that her train is on platform no.3 and started walking towards it. As she is heading forward, she observed dairy milk bars piled up in the transparent display shelf of a shop. She immediately remember that is her friends favourite and purchased 5 of them. Then she purchased 2 birayani parcels for self and her friend, then 2 glasses of packed fresh juices, mineral water. The she boarded the second class AC in which her father took the ticket and sent it to her.

Then she kept all the luggage under the berth and she suddenly remembered that Sindhu needs a ticket. So she immediately requested her co-passenger to just take care of her luggage and hurried to ticket counter. It is just like a hell out there. A very long queue. The time is 5.00PM. Sanjana is not used to stand in such queues. Her father makes everything available for her whenever she is need and hence she never faced such crowd and queues. But now, it is her turn to manage and get the ticket for her friend. She stood in the queue and waited. After 5 minutes, she thought time wouldn't be sufficient if she wait until the queue before her moves off. So she headed directly towards the counter. It is horribly very rush over there. She requested a man, that there are only few minutes for the train to leave. Please allow her to head forward. He heard her innocent polite words and just gave way. Sanjan would have asked some 6 people in the same manner. At last she got a general ticket and returned to the platform no.3.

The time is now 5.25PM. Within next 5 minutes, Circar Express is going to leave the Chennai Central Railway station. Sanjana, took the cell and dialed her friend. She can't hear the voice clearly in the traffic sound, but understood from few of her words that she is somewhere near to the station and in auto. Then still there is a minute more and Sanjana thought she can better take her luggage out of the train and headed to her compartment. After few steps, she heard a voice from behind, "Sanju dear, am here for you". Sanjana smiled and turned, took the luggage from her friend and shouted, run times up. By that time the train started and moving slowly. Both of them boarded somehow into the compartment which is near to them. Since it is interconnected thoughout all the compartments, they walked easily to their compartment and settled.

After an hour, TC came. Ofcourse Sanjana know that Sindhu's ticket is just a general one and she wont be allowed to sleep in 2nd class at night. So, as soon as the ticket collector came, she herself showed her own ticket and mentioned that some of her friends are in another compartment which is sleeper class and this friend just visited to see her and the ticket is with others. The TC told, its fine, but ask her to return to sleeper class at night. Both waved their heads as if very sincere fellows. It is night, and Sanju and Sindhu started their dinner. The TC once again came, and mentioned again and left the compartment. Sindhu told that she will go to sleeper class and pay the fine there. But Sanjana denied as it is very hot out there and she want her to stay back with her. After dinner, Sanjana closed the curtain and both sat without uttering a word. In the next station Sanjana knew that the TC will change. And as her ticket is already tick marked indicating that it is checked, TC would not disturb that passenger as the curtain will be closed. So, they sat like that half sleep whole night. Then in the morning, the TC is calling from outside".... Hello, Hello...." Sanjana woke up and found only herself and opened the curtain. TC asked are there anyone sharing your berth night. Sanjana simply replied, "No. My friend stayed some time and left to her Sleeper Class after dinner." Then Sanjana found that her friend is heading towards them.....So she took the chance, there she comes again now. The TC saw them doubtingly and asked to show the tickets. Sanjana showed her 2nd class ticket and also another sleeper class ticket. Sindhu was surprised when Sanju showed SL ticket. The TC scribbled something on the tickets and left. before leaving he mentioned, anyway, if you want you can go to you friends sleeper class, but SL people can't stay here.Sanjana replied, "Ok fine, then we will move to SL class and come back to collect luggage when getting down" and both headed towards SL class. Then Sanjana asked Sindhu where she went. Sindhu replied she just went and stood in the adjacent sleeper class for sometime in the early morning when connecting doors are opened. Then after some time the station where they need to get down is nearing. They went to 2nd class and collected the lugguage and got down. Sanjana's cousin is waiting to receive them and thus finally reached home. After reaching home Sindhu asked me, where did u get an SL ticket for me. Sanjana started laughing and then replied, "it is the ticket when I came home last time holidays from chennai. The TC missed to check the date. He just checked the berth number". Both of them laughed thinking of the TC for a long time and then slept off after a nice lunch.

It is really a great adventure. It is a long weekend. But Sindhu would not go to her native place always due to some perasonal family problems. So, when Sanjana asked her friend to come to her place, Sindhu told lie that she will be leaving to her native place. Sindhu did this cos Sanjana can't leave with a relaxed mind and go. But the night before, when Sanjana asked many times, Sindhu revealed that she is going to stay back in chennai. Sanjana don't want to leave her friend alone in the holidays. Sanjana decided to pay fine if TC mention; she also made up her mind to pay whatever the amount for her friend to stay in AC. That is magic of friendship. It makes one do anything for a best friend. and this is a real time example of such friends.

A Wide Smile Cracking Joke

Mom: Tinku, do u know what we call the one that is moving in air over there? They are called Birds. And we say birds fly in air. They are one of God's creation like us. And the one we see through that window flying very fast in the sky is called aeroplane. It is Man's creation.
Tinku:So, Mom, anything moving in air is said to be flying or fly
Mom:Good Tinku! u got my point very quickly
(Tinku took the clock from the table near him and ran to the window and threw it out.)
Mom:Tinku! Have u gone mad!U shouldn't do like that dear!!!
Tinku:Mom!I want to see the time fly! (with an innocent face expression)

The Best Marraige Anniversary Gift to Parents

A lady with age around 35 is walking to and fro in the classroom with a book in hand and speaking very softly looking into each eye of the children sitting around her on wooden chairs. No doubt she is the teacher and a board above the class room entrance is showing Standard IV. Sunny can hear the teacher say in her soft tone, "Dear children, ....... is the best gift that you can give to your parents on any occasion relating to them, say it is their birthdays, marriage days, fathers day, mothers day, etc. They would  no doubt be surprised and happy with your wonderful gift. How happy you pupil feel seeing the happiness on your loving parent's faces......" and there is a ring of the bell indicating the end of the school hours. So, the Moral Science teacher stoped her lesson and waved bye to the children and wished them Happy Weekend. All the children in a single tone said "Thank You, Teacher" and started dispersing. Then Sunny heard someone calling him as "Hey Sunny, come on wake up, we need to start...... Hellooo.....". Sunny opened his eyes slowly and found his sister waking him up from sleep. Sunny stopped dreaming about yesterdays classroom, and became alert of what needs to be done according to his plan which he discussed with his sister yesterday night before going to sleep.

Sunny is a young little boy studying fourth class in a school with international standards which gives equal importance to both studies and extra curricular activities. His sister is also studying  sixth class in another school. Today is his parent's marriage day and he planned to give a surprise along with his sister in the evening celebration party. They all lived in an apartment in 1st floor and his grand parents live in the ground floor. So he first got ready and then he and his sister had their lunch directly since they woke up late as it is weekend. Both of them ate in a hurry which made his mom feel unusual because everyday they are fussy and takes more time to finish their meals. Immediately after lunch, both of them ran down stairs to their grand parents apartment. So, they went to their grandma and Sunny told his idea to his grandma. His grandma is very surprised at the boy's enthusiasm and thought of guiding him. All of them entered the kitchen. Then she showed a bottle. Sunny can see a half white colored powder in the bottle. He asked "What is this powder grandma". Grandma smiled at the innocence of the little boy and replied, "This is called as All purpose flour and is the main ingredient to prepare what you asked for dear". Both the children replied in a single tone, "Oh! is it? k..." Then Sunny told, so this is the one my teacher mentioned in her list.....and he took a paper from his pocket and opened it and found that name. Grandma asked him, "What is that dear?". Sunny quietly replied that he got the recipe from his teacher after his class yesterday. Grandma took the paper and was surprised at the boys preplanned nature. So, Grandma thought of following the recipe in the paper because it is Sunny's collection. She mentioned that some of the ingredients are not available with her and ticked them. Immediately Sunny took the paper and headed towards the entrance. His Grandma shouted, "Sunny dear where are you going?" Sunny replied that he is going to the grocery shop to bring the things which are not  available. Grandma entered the living room slowly due to old age, shouting back "Wait Dear! we shall send Ramu". Sunny replied, no grandma i like to do it myself. Grandma asked "How will you get things dear. You need money right! let me give you". Sunny shouted "No Grandma, I saved my pocket money which dad and mom give me sometimes to buy chocolates in school stores" and ran off. His sister also accompanied him. This time Grandma stood amazed at the boys character. Outside, Ramu the driver saw both the children running out of the gate and asked, "Sunny Sir, do you need me, shall i accompany you?". Sunny shouted back "No Ramu, let us go" and both ran laughing.

Both of them went to nearby departmental stores, just in the next street. There are many rows in which groceries are arranged. Sunny and his sister did not know in which section they have to search and stood still thinking which way to go. A store attender observed the two children and went to them and asked "Hey kids, do you want any help?" Sunny innocently handed him the list and told, we need the things which are ticked. The shopkeeper smiled and patted him on his head softly and told, "Follow me children". The store keeper collected the required things and handed the bill and the groceries to Sunny and his sister. They paid the bill and left. Grandma is waiting at the door. She checked the things they got and told "So, the next is to prepare super fine sugar which I have done in mixer when you left to stores". And she showed them the bowl of powdered sugar. So, both the children kept all the required things which they bought and also which are available with grandma on the kitchen table and sat on the high stools. Sunny took a bowl and started reading the paper again and said aloud "So, First is we have to put half cup of all purpose flour into the bowl". Saying this he did that. Then he put half cup of powdered sugar, 2 table spoons of cocoa, a pinch of salt, 1/4 cup of melted butter which is handed over by his grandma. The he poured 1/2 cup of milk, 1 egg, then some vanilla.
Now, we should beat this for 2 minutes. Sunny started beating. But after a minute he is tiered and his soft palms became red. Seeing this his sister took forcibly from him and completed the beating. Then grandma poured the mix into a cake pan of and placed it in the oven which is already preheated and set the required temperatures. After sometime, she checked the cake with a tooth pick and finally she told to Sunny, "Dear your cake is ready". Sunny and his sister came running very great enthusiasm and saw the cake. Then after it is cooled, grandma placed it on the table. Sunny, took vanilla cream and placed a thick layer on the cake with a knife and spread evenly. Then his sister has given him chocolate flakes which she has prepared out of dairy milk bars. Sunny sprinkled them on the border of the white vanilla cream. Then he took a strawberry jelly cream and wrote in his childish hand writing as "Happy Marriage Anniversary - Sunny & Sweety with Love".
Sweety is his sister's nick name.Then Sweety kept the cake in the freezer.

By the time they finished this, it is almost party time. Sunny's mom called downstairs for her both children. Both of them ran upstairs. She told softly "Children you need to get ready, its going to be party time". Sunny and Sweety got ready and their mom dressed them well and she too got ready. The open space downstairs in front of the apartment is beautifully decorated. The dinner tables set by the attenders of the company for which the contract is given. Already the guests started coming. And Sunny's father who is in white suit and a red rose in the pocket is receiving them. After almost all expected people came, Sunny went inside. After few minutes, he came out hold his wife's hand in his followed by two kids. She is gorgeously dressed and so are her kids. Every one applauded and clapped their hands as both of them entered the gathering. Once they reached the center of the gathering, Sunny's father gifted a ring to his wife. He also father also arranged a big cake at the center. And now it is time for cake cutting. At that moment Sunny's grandma whispered some words in Sunny's father's ear. Everyone can see a surprised expression on his face. Then he neared his son and hugged him and took him into his arms and said aloud "Dear friends, my son has planned a surprise for us on this occasion and here it is, a cake made by his own hands". Sunny's sister brought the cake and their mother is very much surprised to see that. She took Sunny from his father and hugged him and kissed him. Her eyes are filled with  tears of happiness and was ever smiling. She then hugged Sweety too. Both the parents are prod to have such kids. The whole gathering applauded both the children. Sunny's parents first cut his cake only and celebrated. Then only they cut the other cake just for formality. Both of them showered there kisses to their children. Sunny reminded his teacher's words.... and kept smiling and felt that he has made his plan a grand success.

So, a kids character builds up depending on the environment he is bought up, the schools he study, the friends he moves with, etc. everything play an important role.

Dried Roses

I just finished my breakfast with my husband. Since I preferred to eat by his hand today, we ate in the same plate and he feed me with his hands only. I set the table and I just enjoyed his hand feeding. Then he started to office and I waved my hand to him from the lobby as his car passed slowly. Immediately I cleaned the table and utensils and walked out of our apartment and locked the main door. As I am proceeding forward in the corridor, I can hear the laughs of the english people from other apartments beside ours. After I passed two appartments, I stopped and knocked at the door. I heard no response. So again I knocked and waited. Sanjana seems to be busy today. When I knock at her apartment door every morning at 9.00 AM, she responds very quickly since she will be waiting for my company at that time. But today it is peculiar for me that she took time to open the door. Sanjana and Ajay are newly married couples and came to US for Ajay's onsite work and are staying just after 2 apartments beside ours.

When Sanjana opened the door, I found that she is very tiered and is busy with something in kitchen. She wore an apron over her and greeted me with smiling face, but not as cool as everyday. She just invited me directly into kitchen and directed me to help myself to find a chair unlike everyday. When I asked her if she require any help, she told no in a cool manner and opened the oven door. There is a cake inside the oven and she tested whether it is baked or not with a knife and closed the oven door and switched it off. I asked her whether anything special today. She told that it is Ajay's birthday. Then only I remembered that she told me about this two days back. I blamed myself for forgetting and apologized her and asked her why didn't she wait and start after I came so that I can be helpful by sharing some work. For that she gave me a very heart touching reply. She said, "Dear Friend, I don't want to make you work and just want to spend time leisurely with you sharing my thoughts and play and have fun. That is why I want to complete it before you come. Also I want to prepare the birthday cake and all dishes with my own hands." When I heard the reply, I thought I am lucky to have such a friend and Ajay is lucky to have such a wife. But, then I felt Sanjana is not lucky. Though she is not enjoying the company of Ajay as partner mentally, still she does such wonderful things to him. Also, I realized that I never gave such a surprise to my husband even though he is so loving and caring with me. Additionally he will be surprising me on my birthday, our marriage day, etc. So. this time I thought I too should do something surprising on upcoming birthday of my husband. As such thoughts passed my mind, I suddenly heard that Sanjana is calling from the living room.
I realized that I am lost in my thoughts and recovered myself and went to the living room. Sanjana is waiting for me with a plate full of snacks and two glasses of apple juice. She also has a pack of cards in her left hand which we daily play and the DVD player remote in other hand. When I am nearing her, she excitingly called me "Come On friend, lets start". I am very surprised seeing her enthusiasm and energy levels even on that busy scheduled day. I know she gives importance to friends very much. But today I am experiencing it. She is very eager not to miss the time with me even on this day. At the same time she hasn't failed to do all the arrangements to surprise Ajay. I am surprised to see the balancing and planned nature of hers. We played cards for 3 hours and had lunch. Then she took the cake from the oven and covered it with cream and chocolate flakes. Then she wrote the wishes on the cake and then placed it in a big box and covered loosely.
In the evening by the time Ajay came home, she has hidden the cake and all the dishes. After some time, slowly people started coming casually. They just came as if visiting to play cards as they do on all weekends. Even my husband came. After some time, Sanjana's cousin and her family came. She quickly passed the living room and entered the bedroom and hidden something in the cupboard. It is a bouquet of red roses which Sanjana told her cousin to bring. I am very much surprised again for her planning. Then after dinner, all started playing cards. The time ran so fast. When the clock stroked 11.45 PM, Sanjana slowly slipped from the group and went to the bed room and changed the dress and waited for the clock. When the clock stroked 12.00, she entered the living room with the red roses and handed over to Ajay conveying the birthday wishes. It seems he did not expect this sort of surprise from Sanjana. But still he has a vague expression on his face. Sanjana wished and gently patted on his head and started to set the table with cake and candles. A quick cake cutting followed by a long photo section happened. As my husband and me, both are interested in such surprising parties and has good hands on in photography, we involved well in taking photos and making fun. On the whole the party is a grand success. All efforts are of Sanjana. We people just enjoyed. Hope that her efforts touched Ajay's heart. Ajay is not that enjoying company. He doesn't share much with Sanjana, doesn't cooperate her in household activities, doesn't take care of her, he knew very less about Sanjan, etc. If I were Sanjana, I would die. She has great patience.
Again I would mention, If men understands how to behave with wife and care her, she is really lucky. To be frank, I am one such lucky person. But now a days, most men are behaving so and hence the percentage of suffering women reduced a lot, except for the few cases like Sanjana. Hope Ajay realized and Sanjana enters a colorful married life soon. This is a real time happening in my friend's life and I am posting it in the form of an article with her full permissions.

to be continued...

Life Cycle of a Woman

I would like to share the various phases of life a woman passes.
Starting with a very sweet phase when she enjoys the Love, Care, Affection from the world around her i.e. the Childhood. That is the only phase when a woman is protected and guided by her loving parents or well wishers with immediate attention to her requirements even without asking for the same.

The next phase is the starting phase of problems in her i.e. maturation. the first time a woman knows the feel of the physical pain and gradually shows maturity in her thinking too. This affects her way of approach to people. Some limitations and restrictions in her talk and social living will start depending on the nature of her parents and well wishers. But still she is under cover of caring hands of them. Some Parents treat their daughter just like a very close friend. There may be some restrictions and limitations arising out of her general feminine nature. But she will be enjoying the Freedom of Life with a confidence that someone is there to share her thoughts, take care of her and attend her needs, atleast when she open her mouth and asked. In some cases, parents are very strict and concerned and she starts experiencing the worst part of life from this phase itself.

Then comes the very important phase of life which is the major turning point in Woman's Life i.e. none other than Marriage. This phase can be the most colorful, or most disastrous or a mixture of both. Once it is set colorful with a partner who takes care just like her parents in previous phases, nothing more happiest thing happens for any woman on this earth. I appreciate the fact that most of the men now a days trying to be like that. But...if unfortunately she fells in the hands of a man who marries thinking that marriage will reduce his bachelor expenses or who doesn't share his thoughts or plans to her, or who is an expression less gloomy person, or who doesn't follow her advices though he is so unplanned, etc. then starts the real torture. For torturing a woman, a man need not directly scold her, or beat her. Just the above qualities in him are enough to make her life gloomy. Still, I do not know in present day matured generation, how there are still some men existing with such undesirable qualities. OK, I do not want to deviate the topic, just expressed out of the emotional reminding of my friend, one such sufferer. I would like to discuss what a woman expects and what does she dream of her married life in my next article. So keeping this topic aside for now, we shall switch to next phase of life.

The next phase, Motherhood is a wonderful phase the woman is gifted by God. Even this is also the phase when woman face the most critical physical and mental pains. But all those soothed by her child. All her stress involved in 9 months carrying, and labor for delivery are forgotten with just her child's senses. No other problems come to her brain after delivery. Woman just enjoys the motherhood with her child. She and her child will be her world. But, this is in case she has a partner with undesirable qualities mentioned in above para. If she got the right partner, she gives first priority to her partner only. In such cases, it will be her partner, child and herself/any other close ones in the order of her priority. Why this happens so is, the love, care and affection shown by a loving partner will provide energy and mental strength for her to bear all the stress of carrying and delivering the baby successfully and safely. If the partner is with undesirable characters, even in that situation, she herself builds up mental strength keeping all hopes on her child. So, due to this, the concern she show to her life partner lightens, in some cases almost nullified. Believe me, I have seen such cases. I think most of the woman decided that the olden methodologies of great Pathivrathas like Sathi Savithri won't work out in this generation in case they get partners with such undesirable characters.

Switching to the next phase, i.e. Old age, some woman just spend there time with their loving life partners with occasional short visits to their child's places. Now a days, even old women are so broadminded that they stopped complaining about their daughter in laws or son in laws. They just visit and return calmly without any disturbance. But this is done by woman whose life partners are with desirable characters and they enjoy their company. In case of undesirable life partner, woman in old age either join in some ashramams or else she converts to be a fussy disturbance to her child's life without her knowledge with regular visits or completely staying with them and always passing complaints either directly or indirectly. This is the bad side of a narrow minded woman in her old age. Even some woman are also very cooperative and helpful to their children irrespective of whether it is a daughter or daughter in law.

So, thus the woman passes different phases of her life with different ways of thinking and approach with different people in Life.

Finally I would like to mention that there are woman who are fussy to their parents, henpecking their husbands even though he is loving and caring to her, fussy to her child in her old age. But it is another topic which i will discuss in my later posts.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling…
And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it!!!
Be a reason for others to smile - Told by Unknown

SMILE.....with your heart......u will find hidden wonders and even you can make unbelievable and unexpected wonders happen:) - Told by Siri :)

Live 2 Luv,but never Luv 2 Live.The Language of Friendship is not words but meanings;&the expression n perception of those meanings require words - Told by Siri :)

Help others heartfully and completely.... just assuming their work same as yours, that makes your contribution real and make them feel ease in your relationship - Told by Siri :)

So, an amalgam of smile and open expressive words and heartful contribution bring a charm across your cool personality n calm life - characters of ideal personality and ideal life as per me - Told by Siri :)

I beleive in it and always trying to follow it... :-)

If we are not ideal, atleast we can try to be... :)

Lt(Human) = 1
Life->ideality

- Siri :) Cheerzzz...

SMILE.....with your heart......u will find hidden wonders and even you can make unbelievable and unexpected wonders happen :)

An amalgam of smile and open expressive words and heartful contribution bring a charm across your cool personality n calm life - These are the characters of ideal personality and ideal life as per me

I beleive in it and always trying to follow it to reach that ideality... :-)
If we are not ideal, atleast we can try to be...

Lt (Human ) = 1
Life->ideal

Siri :) Cheerzzz...

Live to Love,but never Love 2 Live. The Language of Friendship is not words but meanings; and the expression and perception of those meanings require words

- Siri :) Cheerzzz...