Life Cycle of a Woman

I would like to share the various phases of life a woman passes.
Starting with a very sweet phase when she enjoys the Love, Care, Affection from the world around her i.e. the Childhood. That is the only phase when a woman is protected and guided by her loving parents or well wishers with immediate attention to her requirements even without asking for the same.

The next phase is the starting phase of problems in her i.e. maturation. the first time a woman knows the feel of the physical pain and gradually shows maturity in her thinking too. This affects her way of approach to people. Some limitations and restrictions in her talk and social living will start depending on the nature of her parents and well wishers. But still she is under cover of caring hands of them. Some Parents treat their daughter just like a very close friend. There may be some restrictions and limitations arising out of her general feminine nature. But she will be enjoying the Freedom of Life with a confidence that someone is there to share her thoughts, take care of her and attend her needs, atleast when she open her mouth and asked. In some cases, parents are very strict and concerned and she starts experiencing the worst part of life from this phase itself.

Then comes the very important phase of life which is the major turning point in Woman's Life i.e. none other than Marriage. This phase can be the most colorful, or most disastrous or a mixture of both. Once it is set colorful with a partner who takes care just like her parents in previous phases, nothing more happiest thing happens for any woman on this earth. I appreciate the fact that most of the men now a days trying to be like that. But...if unfortunately she fells in the hands of a man who marries thinking that marriage will reduce his bachelor expenses or who doesn't share his thoughts or plans to her, or who is an expression less gloomy person, or who doesn't follow her advices though he is so unplanned, etc. then starts the real torture. For torturing a woman, a man need not directly scold her, or beat her. Just the above qualities in him are enough to make her life gloomy. Still, I do not know in present day matured generation, how there are still some men existing with such undesirable qualities. OK, I do not want to deviate the topic, just expressed out of the emotional reminding of my friend, one such sufferer. I would like to discuss what a woman expects and what does she dream of her married life in my next article. So keeping this topic aside for now, we shall switch to next phase of life.

The next phase, Motherhood is a wonderful phase the woman is gifted by God. Even this is also the phase when woman face the most critical physical and mental pains. But all those soothed by her child. All her stress involved in 9 months carrying, and labor for delivery are forgotten with just her child's senses. No other problems come to her brain after delivery. Woman just enjoys the motherhood with her child. She and her child will be her world. But, this is in case she has a partner with undesirable qualities mentioned in above para. If she got the right partner, she gives first priority to her partner only. In such cases, it will be her partner, child and herself/any other close ones in the order of her priority. Why this happens so is, the love, care and affection shown by a loving partner will provide energy and mental strength for her to bear all the stress of carrying and delivering the baby successfully and safely. If the partner is with undesirable characters, even in that situation, she herself builds up mental strength keeping all hopes on her child. So, due to this, the concern she show to her life partner lightens, in some cases almost nullified. Believe me, I have seen such cases. I think most of the woman decided that the olden methodologies of great Pathivrathas like Sathi Savithri won't work out in this generation in case they get partners with such undesirable characters.

Switching to the next phase, i.e. Old age, some woman just spend there time with their loving life partners with occasional short visits to their child's places. Now a days, even old women are so broadminded that they stopped complaining about their daughter in laws or son in laws. They just visit and return calmly without any disturbance. But this is done by woman whose life partners are with desirable characters and they enjoy their company. In case of undesirable life partner, woman in old age either join in some ashramams or else she converts to be a fussy disturbance to her child's life without her knowledge with regular visits or completely staying with them and always passing complaints either directly or indirectly. This is the bad side of a narrow minded woman in her old age. Even some woman are also very cooperative and helpful to their children irrespective of whether it is a daughter or daughter in law.

So, thus the woman passes different phases of her life with different ways of thinking and approach with different people in Life.

Finally I would like to mention that there are woman who are fussy to their parents, henpecking their husbands even though he is loving and caring to her, fussy to her child in her old age. But it is another topic which i will discuss in my later posts.