Worst Life vs Cool Life of Indian Women

Sanjana and I went to one of our fantastic favorite place. Its a park with water pools here and there at regular distances. There are also sitting benches arranged near each pool and the park is full of green grass which is cut and it just looks like a green mat all over. We sat on the grass beside a pool and sharing the happenings in our lives. This is what we do every Friday evening when we return from office. We laugh together at the comedy incidents that happened in our office, we discuss about the many common things and even we share about our personal lives. I am telling Sanjana, "Sanju, today our PM suggested the team to plan for an outing, he is really so sweet person....." Sanjana is staring at the ripples in the pool that are caused by the cool breeze. Her face is so pale and she seems to be lost in some other thoughts and not listening to my words. This is happening quite frequently from the time she got married. I asked her, what happened to her and why she is getting lost like that suddenly. Every time I ask her, she just smiles back and say nothing. Actually I like am a fan of her smile if she does it heartfully. But in situations like this she gives formal smile which make me know that she is not happy and hiding something. The same happened today also. Initially I didn't bother much about her such behavior. But as days passed and as she is loosing the charm over her face day by day, I thought I should know the reason and do whatever I can. because, a close friend whom I have seen as a leader, badminton player, active participant and organisor in cultural activities during college days is now looking dull, lost and behaving in a peculiar manner. So today I decided not to leave her when she smiled and replied nothing.

I raised my voice and asked her, "Sanju dear, Whats happening to you these days. You are behaving in a peculiar manner sometimes. You are lost in your own thoughts and becoming dumb sometimes. I am really becoming mad. Please tell me what is happening to you". She replied in a cool manner "Nothing" again. I got frustrated and replied, "Sanju, I can't stay without talking to you and please do not talk to me until you are open to me. U can stay dumb as long as you can, I will be bearing the torture". Tears rolled over Sanjana's eyes and she hugged me and crying. I consoled her first and then asked, "Now tell me dear, what happened". She narrated her sad story.....Sanjana is married 3 years back and she has a baby now. She is staying in her Mom's home with her baby from a long time after delivery. Now a days all people after marriage feel more comfortable with life partners than even their respective parents. But Sanjana's case is not so. She got a LP with a different sort of mentality.   His company is so gloomy and he never cooperate with Sanjana in household works.  Inspite of this he also won't allow her to keep a full time servant maid. He wont give sufficient pocket money to Sanju and talk some foolish morals to escape. For this reason Sanju who initially planned not to work after marraige, started working seriously. Once she got to know her husbands mentality she hunted for a job and achieved. Even now after her pregnancy, her company called her back due to support from her team lead and offered her facility to work from home. Such a personality is hers. So she need a full time servant maid and her husband is against to it inspite of her efforts to earn her own pocket money and also saving and increasing the money by investing in various businesses. Before marriage her father used to give her Rs.15000 as pocket money. That is the her standard of life. Now she is working hard for a 5 digit salary. Her standard of life fell down. Roaming in a car, living in a house with full fledged facilities and with full time servant maid is how she is brought up. Now after marriage, totally changed, no car, no AC, no geyser, no minimum facilities which even a lower middle class families are having now a days. She adjusted for one and half year with the improper facilities her husband provided to her inspite of his good salary. He always leave her and go to onsites. Only once he took her to onsite. She can't understand his problem and the reason for him to make her subject to such difficulties.

So, Sanju strongly decided to do job because of his husbands unstable and misery mentality. So, she need to have a full time servant maid if she has to cop up with the tasks and monitoring baby besides. But her husband doesn't accept it. She is getting tensed always with his ways and prolonging her return journey to him after delivery. This is only one example, there are many such problems caused by him. So, living with such type of person is always making her sick and mentally lost.

As Sanju is narrating this problem of hers, I remember another friend of ours Sindhu, who has a servant maid besides having a very cooperative husband. He even do the kitchen work, as all guys now a days do, take her to outings to some country clubs, bowling, temples in and around the city and also every week for shopping on every weekend. They have a car, and an own house with all facilities in a city and go to parks with their child almost all evenings returning from office earlier, even though they are having full time servant maid. He sometimes prepare a special dish on weekends and create excitement. And sometimes she does it. And remaining days the servant maid. There is rotation in the work making every day exciting. On the week days, he go to office at 9 and return at 6 evening. She starts her work from home from 10 and does it through out the day with breaks to spend time with her child. When she does her office work, the servant maid will take care of the child. Sindhu has know problem even when relatives or friends come to her house, cos she has a servant and also her husband is cooperative. Life seems to be exciting, easy and filled with fun if you observe that couples. When I saw them I felt married life is really colorful . They just have fun all the days. For every 2 months they visit to guys place and girls place alternatively taking leaves giving equal importance to both sides of the family. Really when I saw them, I felt like getting married soon. But when I observe Sanjana's life, I feel like not marrying at all. This incident took place an year before to my marriage. I do not know when Sanjana's life becomes colorful. I am lucky to lead a life like Sindhu, cos my life partner is also very cooperative.

This is an example of worst vs cool life of Indian women. Beware of men making your life gloomy and may be same advice to men i.e. beware of woman making your life gloomy. If you can't take care of a woman/man as her/his parents does, please do not get married and waste a life of a person.